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Toxic Friends: How Many Of Us Have Them?

meganmottley

December 10, 2016

Toxic Friends: How Many Of Us Have Them?

Megan Mottley


“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

People come in and out of our lives but not everyone deserves the title of friend. You’ve heard the saying, “Some people are in your life for a reason or a season.” Never has a statement been so true and anyone who fails to take heed to the lesson behind those words can end up with or probably already has toxic friends.

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What is a toxic friend? It’s sort of an oxymoron because a friend wouldn’t normally be called toxic. It seems that anything considered toxic can’t be good. Toxic waste dumps, toxic bins to store previously used needles, and now toxic friends. In essence, a toxic friend is someone that can and will cause harm in your life. Thinking someone is a genuine friend when they are really toxic is almost as detrimental.

Let’s take a look at some toxic situations among so-called friends:

Toxic Situation 1
After a couple of bad experiences, Amy reluctantly decided to attend a party with her friend Bethany. Amy expressed to Bethany beforehand that they should stay together and watch each other’s back. Bethany reassures Amy that everything will be okay. As soon as the two enter the party, Bethany disappears with a guy into a dark corner. Later Amy sees Bethany taking shots of liquor with a group of strangers and tries to get her to leave. She claims that she is okay and that they would leave soon. Amy keeps a close eye on Bethany but is distracted by a fight. When Amy is clear from danger she searches frantically to find a non-existent Bethany. Amy resorts to sitting in her car hoping that Bethany would soon appear. After a few hours, Amy sees a couple of guys carrying out an apparently drunk girl. When Amy realizes that the girl is Bethany she rescues her from the guys in fear of what they had in mind. The next weekend, Amy receives a phone call from Bethany who wants to go to another party. What should Amy do?

Toxic Situation 2
Derek has been involved with his new girlfriend for about three months. His friend Jason is known to be a bit of a ladies man and has a reputation. Derek doesn’t pay attention to the rumors that he has heard about his friend Jason. On one occasion, Derek needed Jason to pick his girlfriend up from the airport. Jason was happy to help and put on his best outfit, his favorite cologne and headed to the airport. When Jason arrived, Derek’s girlfriend April noticed how strangely Jason was acting. Jason used every possible opportunity to stand a little too close to April or flash his winning smile. Everything Jason did made April extremely uncomfortable. When April was home, she called Derek to explain the situation but he refused to believe that his friend of 8 years would try to flirt with his girlfriend. Who should Derek believe?

Sometimes it’s hard to pinpoint a toxic friend and it’s even harder to end this type of friendship. Therefore, in choosing friends consider what Jesus said in John 15: 12: “This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.” So you should love your friends as Christ has loved you and your friends should do the same. In any situation if a so-called friend does not have your best interest at heart they are a toxic friend. If you continue to deal with that person they will soon get you into a situation that can be dangerous to your life.

Keep your eyes open and your hand in God’s hand to recognize warning signs of toxic friendships. I Corinthians 10: 13 reminds us that “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way of escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” In other words, God always gives us a way out especially in toxic friendships. When people come into your life use your best judgment, choose wisely!

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Proverbs 18:24

STAY GLAMOROUS:

Never feel obligated to maintain a friendship that drains you. It’s okay to pray for someone that you were once close to from a distance. Your peace of mind and the ability to focus on the people that God has assigned you to is the most vital thing.

RESOURCES:

Read, Toxic Friends: A Practical Guide to Recognizing and Dealing with an Unhealthy Friendship” by Loraine Smith-Hines

GLAM TALK:

When have you had to deal with a toxic friend, family member, or co-worker? How did you handle the situation?

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Be Strong & Take Heart

Lekeshia Alexander

December 9, 2016

Be Strong & Take Heart

Lekeshia Alexander


” Wait for the Lordbe strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14

Lately I have been struggling in the area of my patience with God . I have questioned some prayers that have remained unanswered and really wanted to know if God truly cares about the desires of my heart. As I continued to ponder these thoughts, I was reminded of this scripture:

Psalm 27:13-14 (NIV)

I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
 Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.

David was in battle and in the midst of being pursued by his enemy, he placed all of his confidence in God. He encouraged himself that in spite of all that he saw in front of him, he would get to witness the goodness of God on earth. He told himself to be strong and take heart. I had to research the actual meaning of “take heart” and according to the ESV version of the Bible, taking heart means to have a courageous heart. Webster defines courage as strength in the face of pain and grief.

So when you feel that it is taking God too long to deliver you from that job. Take heart. If you feel that it is taking too long for him to send your husband, take heart. Know that God is faithful and that you will experience his goodness while on Earth. Even when you are experiencing discomfort, be courageous and stand firm in your faith and in who God is. He will renew your strength to press on.

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

” Wait for the Lordbe strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14

STAY GLAMOROUS:

Surround yourself with other Glamour Girls who encourage you to find your strength in the Lord. Life’s problems can’t be handled like reality tv or with talk show rhetoric but with the pure and unadulterated Word of God.

RESOURCES:

Read, “Be Strong: Putting God’s Power To Work In Your Life” by Warren Wiersbe

Lekeshia Alexander is a mother, an educator and a champion for single mothers. She has a blog Solo Mom on a Mission located at Solommission@blogspot.com. She serves in her local church and has a heart to serve single mothers by providing encouragement and life coaching. She can be reached at tylromans12@gmail.com.
GLAMTALK:
When have you had to really be strong in the Lord? How have you encouraged another Glamour Girl to take heart over a tough situation?

Life’s Tests Lead To Testimonies

meganmottley
December 8, 2016
Life’s Tests Lead To Testimonies

Megan Mottley


“Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” Hebrews 13:8
Trusting God is not just something to say anymore. It is a statement that comes at a high cost. A statement that has to be spoken with vigilance and by those who are unafraid of the tests that comes along with it. All tests aren’t from Satan. Many tests and trials come from God and He wants to see if we really trust Him. If you haven’t already, you will come to a point where going to church just isn’t enough, reading motivational books just isn’t enough, pep talks from friends won’t do. You’ve got to wake up everyday thinking, “Lord, will this mountain move today?” and at the end of the day when it hasn’t moved you’ve got to say, “Okay, Lord you’re in control so maybe tomorrow.”
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Many tests and trials come from God and He wants to see if we really trust Him.
Even when the mountain you’re waiting on God to move becomes two, three or four mountains, you’ve got to take a deep breath and put your hands in God’s hands and say, “Lord, I trust you”.

I’ve discovered that even when you try to do everything right you still face adversity. People still come into your life and alter your paths. Situations continue to arise that force you to question your purpose and destiny. Moments like these can even seem like they will last an eternity. These are the moments when God is pruning you and stretching you. All you feel like doing is crying, complaining, whining, screaming, hollering or all of the above.

When you feel anger, resentment, disappointment, and disgust about a situation that you’re facing, resist asking yourself, “why me”. Instead, the question that really matters is “why not you”? God knows exactly what He’s doing in your life and what work He’s trying to complete in you.

On many occasions God has brought us out of our situations and even in 2016, He is the “same yesterday, and today, and forever” (Hebrews 13:8 KJV). He changes not. He rescued you before so why believe that your current situation is any different. It’s not! Trust God. He never fails.

BIBLICAL TRUTH: 

“Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” Hebrews 13:8

STAY GLAMOROUS: 

When times get tough maintain your grace & poise. If you can’t because that situation is too overwhelming, bow out gracefully.

RESOURCES:

Read, “Trusting God Even When Life Hurts” by Jerry Bridges

GLAMTALK:

When have you had to put your trust in God? How did you cope with feelings of anger, resentment, or disappointment while you waited on God to work things out?

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Moving On After The Storm

Joyce Kyles

December 7, 2016

Moving On After The Storm

Joyce Kyles


“Blessed are they that mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

Sarah lived in an abusive relationship for nearly 10 years. After numerous attempts to leave, she finally had enough courage to do so. She thought peace of mind and happiness would come instantly. Instead, she found herself feeling lonely and sad. She couldn’t believe that she actually missed her abuser. Sarah felt guilty and ashamed. How could she miss the one person who had brought her so much grief and pain? Would she ever have the peace of mind that she longed for?

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October is recognized nationally as Domestic Violence Awareness month but the truth is women battle with how to cope with the after effects of domestic violence all year round. One of the biggest myths about leaving an abusive relationship is that you will instantly forget about the abuser. The truth is, once you’re out of a hostile environment, you have an opportunity to reflect on your life. You will remember him/her. There were some great adventures that took place in all of the chaos. A bond was created. Love was established. In Sarah’s case, she was with her abuser for nearly 10 years. That is a long time to be with someone. You can’t expect your feelings to change in 10 days, nor should you feel guilty. It is human to feel.

Ending a relationship is like death in many ways. It hurts. It can be hard to accept, especially in the beginning. You may feel as if the pain will never end. There are two important facts to remember. One, God is a comforter. He knows and understands your pain. He hears your cries. He will give you strength to endure the process of mourning if you trust him. Two, you can and you will get through it. It will not necessarily be an easy walk, but again, trust Him. He will lead you to other people and resources to help. When it’s time, you will wake up one morning feeling refreshed & renewed. The happiness and peace of mind that you seek and deserve will be the order of the day. You may still think of the one who hurt you from time to time. But, you will view that time of your life as a reflection of your strength and God’s ability to cradle you during the storm.

BIBLICAL TRUTH: 

“Blessed are they that mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4

STAY GLAMOROUS:

Draw closer to your Creator. He has not brought you this far to leave you. Connect with other survivors and people who have your best interest at heart and do your best to live a fearless life. It may be scary and it may seem daunting but there is nothing too hard for God.

RESOURCES:

If you’ve been a victim of Domestic Violence, there are ways for you to seek help outside of the month of October. Find local agencies and resources in your area when you’re feeling like going back to

Joyce Kyles is a domestic violence survivor, founder of Walking Into A New Life and author of “Restoring The Whole In My Soul”.

GLAMTALK:

In what ways do you think you could help someone in a domestic violence situation? What would cause you to hesitate to help someone in domestic violent situation?

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Decision By Standard

Holly Payne

December 6, 2016

Decision By Standard

Holly Payne


And He was saying to them, “Take care what you listen to. By your standard of measure it will be measured to you; and more will be given you besides.”  Mark 4:24

In our everyday lives, we face a variety of decisions on a regular basis. Usually, whether we like to admit it or not, and sometimes whether we even realize it or not, how we make decisions is influenced by a number of factors. These factors may include, but are certainly not limited to:

  • Our upbringing
  • Our family
  • Our friends
  • Our circumstances
  • Our culture

In other words, when we are faced with a decision, all of these things, as well as other things, provide the lenses through which we see things. When we look through the filter of these things, our choices will be impacted.

Over time, we find ourselves developing patterns and behaviors in decision-making. More often than not, these patterns and behaviors are so subtle in nature that we don’t even realize we’re doing them.

…my decisions began to be clouded by how people might react to my decisions…

In my own life, I am very much a “git-r-dun” girl. When I know that a decision has to be made, I tend to examine the problem, look at available solutions, and then make the decision based on what would appear to produce the best outcome. Usually that method works out pretty well. However, for years, one thing that had clouded my decision-making abilities was the standard on which I decided.

Certain individuals in my life, and who were very close to me, were extremely strong-willed. Since I was in very close contact with them on a daily basis, my decisions began to be clouded by how those people might react to my decisions. In other words, if I felt that something would upset someone, I tended to make a different choice. In and of itself, that might not have been so bad. We should never make choices with the intent to cause harm or discord.

But the real problem came when suddenly, one day, I realized that their behavior in particular situations did not line up with the Word of God. So by default, and this was very hard for me to have to face, my own decisions to placate these individuals were actually participating with the works of the enemy.

Ouch.

Even though I was doing everything I possibly could, or so I thought, to live a godly life that was both a good example to others and pleasing to the Lord, I was actually participating with the enemy. It was at that point in my life when I had a major personal revelation that has changed how I look at things from that point forward.

I was making my decisions based on the wrong standard.

A person’s opinion, choices, and unrighteous behaviors had become my standard. And all the while, I didn’t even realize it.  I had based my life’s decision-making process on the standard of trying not to ruffle feathers instead of making choices that honored the God I love.

Once I became aware of this knowledge, I was responsible for it. That meant I would have to make decisions based on the right standard, which was what the word of God says and what the character of his nature demonstrates, regardless of whose feathers it might ruffle or what it would cost me in terms of relationships. See, that’s what’s so interesting about God. When we are in an intimate relationship with Him, we know Him and more importantly, He knows us. And as we begin to know Him more, it is our understanding of His character and of His standards that can guide us even when there’s not a Bible within reach.

His Word always backs up His character, and the character of His nature always demonstrates His Word.

When I began to make decisions differently, based on the proper standard, guess what? One person I tried to placate on a regular basis did not like it at all. In fact, things got really rough, and it resulted in some serious transitions that were by no means easy. However, those things were necessary.

When digging a ditch, it’s not only important that the work is done well. It can be the most magnificent ditch ever dug, but if it’s in the wrong place, it cannot serve its purpose. So if we’re making decisions all day long, and they seem to be the right decisions based on what’s available to us, even that is not a guarantee. Decisions based on the wrong standard are like that misplaced ditch.

We have to purposely make the Word of God our standard. Not opinion, not manipulation, nothing. Like it or not, people ARE watching.  They’re not always going to agree with our decisions or courses of action, but we’ve got to stand firm in what we know to be true. We’ve got to be so convinced of and grounded in our standard that we can make the hard decisions without wavering. And when we try to bring order into a situation, we have to make sure that the order we’re bringing is based on the proper standard.  There can be nothing that motivates us more strongly than the standard of God. See when we build on any other standard, we are compromising the foundation. Order based on the wrong standard is still just chaos. So we must be utterly convinced of the standard, and then regardless of all else, we must use it as our decision-making point.

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

And He was saying to them, “Take care what you listen to. By your standard of measure it will be measured to you; and more will be given you besides.”  Mark 4:24

STAY GLAMOROUS:

  • When faced with a decision, first ask the Lord, “What do YOU say about this issue?”
  • LISTEN for His answer.
  • Follow His leading.
  • Examine your motives for why you think the way you do about the options you have.
  • Once you make the decision, follow through, remaining true to the standard. It’s important not to waffle. To waffle is to be double-minded, and a double-minded man (or Glamour Girl) is “is unstable in all his (or her) ways.” (James 1:8)

RESOURCES:

GLAMTALK:

When have you made a poor decision based on what you thought someone else would think? How have you overcome the opinion of others and learned to focus on the things of God?

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Social Networks Or Your Soul?

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December 5, 2016

Social Networks Or Your Soul?

Megan Mottley


“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23 

Social Networks like Christian Mingle, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, SnapChat, Periscope, Pinterest, Twitter,  YouTube and hundreds more have taken over many people’s lives. I admit that I love staying connected to friends and family through social networks but I also notice the negative aspects of them as well. I encourage everyone who uses social networks to do so with caution. Don’t lose your soul to a Social Network!

At best social networks are major distractions and if you’re not careful they can take up all of your time. Set a time limit and don’t go past your allotted time to chat with friends and family,etc. If you can no longer seem to focus on spending time in the Word of God, striving toward your career goals, taking care of your family and other responsibilities or you find yourself constantly checking your phone for updates, then you may need to evaluate where your priorities lie.

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You also open yourself  up to some very unusual connections. You may be connected with people through social networks who have a warped sense of life and who bombard you and your thoughts with their opinions. Guard your heart against things that you know are not of God. Be on guard against evil influences and by people who are not on the same path as you. You should be an example to other people who are lost and confused about life. Matthew 5:16 says “…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.”

Be the light in the dark places and even on social networks.

Many social networks can lead to developing dangerous relationships with strangers and even open a door to other serious issues. I’m always reminded of the song that we sang as children, “Oh be careful little eyes what you see”. Be vigilant while using social media sites. Be careful with exchanging photos, checking out links to third party websites and going into chat rooms that have questionable atmospheres.

Sure enough, social networks are designed to be fun and to provide a network or platform to socialize. It was never meant to turn into a place for men and women to act unbecoming to themselves or one another. I encourage you to be mindful of your usage or over usage of Social Networks. Anything that takes you away from your relationship with God, serving others and fulfilling your purpose is not something that should be a priority in your life. So choose your Soul over a Social Network every time!

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.” Proverbs 4:23 

STAY GLAMOROUS:

Be a light on social media. Spread the love of Christ. Share inspiring posts, messages, videos. Link up and connect with other followers of Christ.

RESOURCES:

Read “Christians and Social Media” by Diane Winbush

GLAMTALK

What do you enjoy about Social Media? What do you least like about Social Media? How do you use Social Media to spread the love of Christ?

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In Everything Give Thanks

December 4, 2016

In Everything Give Thanks

Comeshia Williams

Comeshia Williams


” In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” I Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV)

When most people hear the word “cancer” or the “Big C” they immediately think of death, sickness, hurt, gloom and doom, pain, illness, loss, and many other down trodden words.  When I was diagnosed with Cancer in August 2016, believe me, many, if not all of these words came to me at some point.  After having my body altered with a double mastectomy, and now going through chemotherapy, I have felt all of those things at some point. Hey, I am human.  But God!!!

After having my body altered with a double mastectomy, and now going through chemotherapy, I have felt all of those things at some point.

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I am so thankful that those moments are fleeting, because God gave me a choice–focus on the negative or focus on Him! Even in the midst of experiencing cancer, I am so thankful.  I am thankful for the hugs that my son just gave me.  I am thankful that I have not experienced the gamut of side effects that go along with chemotherapy.  I am thankful for the love that I have received from so many people throughout this journey.  I am thankful for not being bedridden.  I am thankful that I can take walks outside and not be in pain.  I am so thankful!

Why was I chosen to have cancer? 

I am not sure.  But what I am sure of is that I will thank God through it all.  I give Him the glory and the praise.  I won’t wait to thank God when the battle is over, I will thank Him in the midst of the storm.  Your storm may not be cancer, but whatever you’re facing, I encourage you to thank God now!  He is with you and me as we go through.  Give him the glory.  I sure will!

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

” In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.” I Thessalonians 5:18 (KJV)

STAY GLAMOROUS: 

When you’re going through, think of everything that is good.  In all things give thanks!

RESOURCES:

Read, “The Power of Being Thankful” by Joyce Meyer

GLAMTALK:

In what instances have you forgotten to be thankful? How have you been reminded to be more grateful?

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Unhealthy & Unreliable

Tiffany Monger

Unhealthy & Unreliable

December 3, 2016

Tiffany Monger


“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” 1 Corinthians 6:19

Many of us have been taught unhealthy eating habits due to our culture. Some of our parents have taught us we must clean our plates because there are people in Africa starving or because they didn’t have much so they ate all that was available. However, we are in a different time now. That behavior has lead many of us to carry those bad habits into our present lifestyle, which have led many to become obese. We weren’t taught that our bodies aren’t only used to stuff food down our throat, but that the Holy Spirit dwells there too.

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The only way God can get his plans accomplished in the earth is going to be through people. We have become lazy beings and our health has become affected. We are so out of shape that we limit how God can use us. We were made for God’s purpose and if were to be led with that mindset, we would be so much more mindful of how we treat, feed and handle our bodies. We think because it’s our body we have the right to do what we want, however, God is saying No! That was never His original purpose for creating you.

What if you have to go out and do outreach, would you be in shape to walk and have the wind to hold long conversations? If you need to save someone from danger, would you be able to run to their aid? Lastly, if you were on a mission to do door-to-door ministry in the neighborhood, would you be able to minister without feeling exhausted and uncomfortable? We must be prepared and in great condition to be available to be used by God. We need good health, decent and preferably good eating habits to be prepared for whatever task that God wants us to execute.

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

“What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” 1 Corinthians 6:19

STAY GLAMOROUS:

A simple way to consider your body is by consuming a great amount of water. Water has many great benefits for your skin, joints, digestive system, and energy level. Many hate the bland taste of water so I recommend trying the mini 8 oz. water bottles. After two sips, they are gone. Fill that bottle up about 6 to 8 times you would have gotten close to 64 oz. You have to trick your mind until your body recognizes who’s boss!

FITNESS PRAYER:

Heavenly Father,

God help me to renew my mind as it pertains to what I put into my body. Give me a new desire and wisdom regarding how I treat my temple. God I want to be used for your glory so please give me the strength to deny my flesh and not engage in anything that will hinder you from operating in my body the way you created it. Help me to release old mindsets as it pertains to eating. Please order my steps and lead me into a new way of thinking. Father, forgive me for not considering you and and not being a faithful steward to my body. I sincerely desire a better way.

RESOURCES: 

Read, “What The Bible Says About Healthy Living” by Rex Russell

GLAMTALK:

Who do you have in your life that holds you accountable for your eating habits? Who/what causes you to dishonor your body with bad eating habits? What will it take for you to get back on track?

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A Blessed Woman, Indeed

December 2, 2016

A Blessed Woman, Indeed

Arnita Fields

Arnita Fields


“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” Proverbs 31:28 NIV

For centuries, the example of the “Proverbs 31 Wife” has been looked upon as the biblical blueprint every Christian woman should strive to emulate. A great question a woman can ask herself before embarking on this personal journey is ‘What exactly is the process that I would be willing to go through in order to become a woman of godly excellence?’

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The next question is should her focus be centered on the material, physical, or spiritual? Or should she primarily focus on a portion of all three areas? In verse 28 of Proverbs 31, it speaks of how “Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” 

Let’s define the two key words found within this passage: Arise and Blessed.

The word Arise means, to get up from a thing or prone position, and to rise. It also means to awaken and get up. And, lastly, it means to move upward; ascend.

Blessed is described as having a sacred nature; connected with God, very welcome, pleasant, or appreciated.

Children are naturally and spiritually seen as a blessing from the Father. Even though at times, many precious children have been treated in both an unhealthy and unloving manner by those who are called to nurture them. However, the true woman of God, who recognizes the value of the jewels she has been given to steward over, spends time seeking to discover who her children really are as they grow through the various stages of childhood.

So what specifically must a woman do in order for her own children to one day arise and call her blessed?

  1. She must first acquire an appetite for spending quality time meditating upon the things of God. As she fills her life up spiritually, she will in turn be able to adequately plant seeds of the Word, along with practical wisdom, into the lives of her children. As time progresses, the imparted seeds are then watered, nurtured, and pruned, when necessary. As her children begin to grow in the things of the Spirit, they will soon awaken and begin to speak forth the promises and blessings of God.
  2. She has to continue to model a life after the Word of God even during difficult times. Does this mean she is perfect and a woman without fault? No, it only means that she seeks to show her children a godly example of someone who is consistently striving to reach who God has predestined her to be in Christ. Even when difficult times arise, this woman does not allow what she is experiencing to consume her. She instead gives every burden to the one who created and called her to this place of stewardship.
  3. She uses her mouth to speak words of love and encouragement to her children. She seeks to speak the word of God into the hearing of her children in order for them to understand that they are not only connected to her but also to the Sovereign God. When this connection is established at an early age, children will know that their heritage runs deeper than just their personal family tree.

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.” Proverbs 31:28 NIV

STAY GLAMOROUS:

Whether you are currently experiencing a joyful relationship with your children or facing a season of difficulties, know that the Father is concerned with every aspect of your journey. His Word serves a dual purpose as a point of instruction and a source of encouragement for those times when we need it the most. No matter where you are as a mother today, you are still a blessed woman, indeed. Stand strong in your faith and continue to focus on God by sowing seeds of righteousness into the lives of your children.  As you release your best, the Father will take care of the rest and you will reap your harvest in your appointed season.

RESOURCES: 

Arnita Fields has written several books for women including, “22 Wisdom Keys: Reflections of a Modern Day Proverbs 31 Wife” and Spiritual Turbulence.

GLAMTALK:

What sacrifices have you made in your child(ren)’s lives? How have you modeled having a heart for God even during difficult times in front of your children?

If you don’t have children or your child has gone astray, how have you made a difference in the life of a child in your sphere of influence?

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God Helps

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December 1, 2016

“God helps those who help themselves

Jenessa Hefler


“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are upset and worried about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42

I was recently talking to a friend about her religion. We share a lot of similarities- most importantly our beliefs in a Sovereign, omnipresent God and an imperfect humanity. She mentioned that the two most important priorities in our daily life are to work hard and pray. She again emphasized that the most important thing in our life is to work hard at whatever the Lord has placed in front of us- whether that be vocation, chores, education, etc.- prayer is important, but secondary.

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When you look at your life, which is more important to you- prayer or work? I don’t mean in theory- I mean in practice. I come from a very type-A, task-oriented, hard-working middle class family. We are all big planners, cleaners, and “do-ers.” It’s funny to see us try to relax and watch a movie because we can’t sit still for very long. Invariably, we stop the movie at least 5 times for someone to answer a phone, get a snack, find some nail polish, replenish homework materials, etc. We are constantly multi-tasking and planning. This kind of environment served me very well in life. Academically, I was always at or near the top of my class, a teacher’s pet, completing assignments well and on time. Socially, I am good at planning events, getting people together, organizing coffee dates, calling old friends to keep in touch. Emotionally, to-do lists keep my world flowing. It feels really good to make a list and see the progress as you cross them off. You don’t have time or energy to worry about the bigger issues of the world or the deeper issues within yourself if you are busy completing the “good work” of your to-do list.

Without going into too much detail, God recently (in the last 3-4 years) flipped my work-centered life upside down. He gave me a job that for all of my hard work, planning, even cooperating, I failed HARD. In the midst of this season, he gave me many verses to ponder. Ask God to open your heart and mind to his word as you too consider these verses…

What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes.

“Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling for food to eat- for he grants sleep to those he loves.” Psalm 127:1-2

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14

“Now, listen, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go to this city or that city, spend a year there, carry on business, and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast and brag. All such boasting is evil.” James 4:13- 16

“Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord.” Psalm 27:14

I didn’t trust that my future would work out unless I planned it. I trusted my time, my efforts, and my plans much more than I trusted God.

And consider the life of Jesus. I believe he had the MOST IMPORTANT WORK of any human who ever lived. Yet look at how often he seemingly neglected that work for prayer. (These are only the verses from a few chapters of Luke. Not meant to be an exhaustive list.)

“But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.” Luke 5:16

“At daybreak, Jesus went out to a solitary place.” Luke 4:42

“One of these days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God.” Luke 6:12

“when Jesus was praying in private and his disciples were with him…” Luke 9:18

“…Jesus took Peter, John, and James with and went up to a mountainside to pray.” Luke 9:28

“One day Jesus was praying in a certain place.” Luke 11:1

My initial response was to tell my friend that she (and her religion) were wrong- that prayer is the MOST important thing in our life. That if we both say God is sovereign, how can anything be more important than talking to him, hearing from him, seeking him, and knowing him? But I quickly stopped myself and reflected that while most Christians would say prayer is more important than work, very few of us live that way.

BIBLICAL TRUTH:

“Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are upset and worried about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” Luke 10:41-42

STAY GLAMOROUS: 

  1. Pray. Pray. Be honest with God.
  2. Consider how AND why you tend to put work before God.
    • Personally, I found that it was because I honestly trusted myself more than God. I didn’t trust that there would be enough time in my day if I didn’t work at getting stuff done first. I didn’t trust that I would remember things that need to get done unless I wrote them down and followed them. I didn’t trust that my future would work out unless I planned it. I trusted my time, my efforts, and my plans much more than I trusted God.
  3. Take a step of faith today. In one area, do something “irresponsible” and trust God instead of yourself. (An idea: one day, I tore up my to-do list and threw it away so that I could focus on God. Not surprisingly, nothing truly important went undone that day. God more than provided.)

RESOURCES:

GLAMTALK:

How have you been guilty of putting work, socializing, relationships, etc., before God? When was the last time you tore up your to-do-list to focus on God?

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